Keeping it real: Cash gifts

29th November, 2013

Keeping it real: Cash gifts

Many people still think that couples who wish to receive cash as wedding gift may have missed a lesson on etiquette, but here’s the thing: Times have changed. However, let us emphasize though that no one is obligated mandated to give a wedding gift or purchase something on a couple’s registry. As a guest, it is your choice what to give and where to shop for it.

So why do couples like to receive cash instead?  Here’s the reality.

It is the gift that keeps on giving. Couples have the freedom to use the cash gift to either buy something for their home, add to their savings account, renovate their kitchen or for them to spend during their honeymoon.

It is a big financial help.  Who wouldn’t love to give the newlyweds a good start in life? There are a lot of  couples who pay for their own wedding nowadays, and we all know how expensive it can get to pull off your dream wedding!

If you feel that cash gifts are more suited to you, let your guests know politely by creating a gift registry on Thankyou. If your guests wouldn’t hesitate to show their generosity by giving you what you want on your big day, you can even make it a lot easier for them to give their monetary gifts through Thankyou’s online contribution system. Check out how this feature works here.

Pregnancy and baby shower superstitions

29th September, 2013

Pregnancy and baby shower superstitions

If you think weddings are surrounded with a lot of superstitions, then you must know that pregnancy and baby showers are full of them too!  Stop reading now if you are remotely superstitious – some of these aren’t very nice!

  1. Chicana culture believes that a pregnant woman, during a full moon, should wear a set of keys around her neck because lunar light can eat the baby’s lip and leave the little one with a cleft palate. The keys will help deflect the moon’s rays.

  2. In Hawaii and Polynesia, if you are having a Hawaiian-themed baby shower and you have leis as party favors, skip it. They believe it will harm the unborn baby. Mums-to-be will need to untie her lei because a complete loop will cause the baby to be strangled by the umbilical cord.

  3. Hindus believe that should hold your baby shower either in the 7th or 9th month of pregnancy. The numbers 7 and 9 are lucky, while the number 8 isn’t. Click here to continue reading

Keeping it real: Pre-nups

18th September, 2013

Keeping it real: Pre-nups

Alright, groan and moan as much as you like and we sure understand! You’re happily planning your wedding, not its dissolution. Not really a romantic thought, right?

What exactly is a prenup? It’s a “ a legal agreement that specifies how couples will divide assets in the event of divorce” Historically, prenups were for the affluent – the wealthy lot who need to protect their extensive assets, businesses and major investments.  However, nowadays, more couples from the middle class draft prenups and the most interesting fact is, more women are  requesting one,  according to a survey conducted by the American Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers. Click here to continue reading

Keeping it real: “Family feud” over baby names

25th August, 2013

Keeping it real: “Family feud” over baby names

You know this. You’ve promised to yourself that when you have a baby, you’ll name him (or her) this and that. You’re firm and you’ve held on to that name for years and now that you find yourself with a baby, everyone’s gone crazy about naming him!

Choosing your child’s name is tricky enough, but when family complicates the issue, it can become more challenging . Does one of them disagree with your choice of a name? Do they want you to name the baby after grandma or grandpa or perhaps after someone super famous? But numerous variations on family naming conflicts just happen all the time. You tell your favourite cousin that you’ve always wanted a little girl named Emily, and the next thing you know, she names her daughter Emily. Or, you tell Grandma Grace that you wish to name your little girl after her, only to find out that she prefers to be the only Grace in the family.

So how do you choose a name? Click here to continue reading

Dealing with comments about getting married

16th August, 2013

Dealing with comments about getting married

Most people around you will be overjoyed once they hear you’re getting married, but there may be a few who can ruin it for just about everyone by giving the worst comments and opinions about your big day! Here are some of those:

Do not get married.

Okay, not sure why they’d say this (can’t stand to see other people happy?). When you get a cynical statement like this one, tell the person why you are getting married. If he or she insists that it’s a bad idea, change the subject to something else they can possibly relate to. Click here to continue reading

Hard to hear: Opinion Overload

9th August, 2013

Hard to hear: Opinion Overload

Wedding planning comes with its own fair share of frustrations and most of the time, getting around the roadblocks only takes some clear thinking, an open mind and a dose of honesty.

Do you have pushy relatives, a parent, a sibling or friends who have strong opinions about your wedding? They can sometimes ruin this memorable day in your life and turn your wedding planning into a nightmare. Of course, they only mean well, but when everyone begins telling you where to get wed, is disapproving of your wedding dress or demanding to sit at the main table, oh dear… your entire wedding experience might be in jeopardy!

To help keep you sane and still have great relationships with these folks, Thankyou has some tips to help you deal with your over-reaching lovelies. Click here to continue reading

Hard to hear: You’re not invited

7th August, 2013

Hard to hear: You’re not invited

There’ll be less hurt feelings and drama if you know how to tell friends that they’re not invited to your big day. Of course, we’re not saying you’d have to contact them or show up on their front door just to tell them they’re not invited…. this is just in case they ask!

Here’s a quick piece of advice from Thankyou on how to tactfully do it:

Say it personally. Do NOT send an email, text,  Facebook message or Tweet them. Be brave and tell them in person or over the phone. Explain how much they mean to you but unfortunately you only have a limited budget or venue space . It might be a little awkward telling them about your wedding budget or venue constraints, but if that’s what it really is, then be honest. Most people understand especially when you explain to them properly!

Hard to hear: When your family hates your mate…

27th July, 2013

Hard to hear: When your family hates your mate…

Is your family not so thrilled with your future husband or wife? It is tough, but don’t get defensive. There’s a way to bring them together even before your big day. Thankyou was able to gather some wonderful tips:

  • Ask your family and friends why they don’t like him or her. Get the facts straight. An open communication will help a lot and you may even be surprised with their reasons. Maybe they misinterpreted your future spouse’s shyness or misunderstood something that he or she said before. Tell them how much you love him or her – it will help them to try harder to accept your future husband or wife.

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Expert advice: Thank-you notes for exchanged gifts

22nd July, 2013

Expert advice: Thank-you notes for exchanged gifts

Question: I have received duplicate gifts and exchanged them for other items in my gift registry. Do I thank guests for what they’ve sent me or for the item I exchanged it for?

Answer: Thank your guests for their thoughtfulness in giving you a present, but never mention on your thank you notes that you have returned or exchanged their gift. If you can avoid mentioning it at all, do so. Simply write a note of appreciation for the original gift. Do not also mention that you have received the same gift from another guest.

Quick tip: Thank you notes reflect your sincerity and gratefulness – write your thank-yous in the same tone you’d use if you’re talking to your guest face-to-face.

Hard to hear #1: What it means to have a child free wedding

28th June, 2013

Hard to hear #1: What it means to have a child free wedding

Brides often think saying “No Children!” is ok. And it is, but as most first time Brides don’t have children, they often don’t understand the consequences and costs involved for parents invited to the wedding.

If children aren’t being invited to your wedding, provide a list of reliable and recommended baby sitters for your out of town guests.

Keep in mind that Weddings are long events and paying a babysitter to cover the time from the ceremony until the conclusion of the reception can be a very costly undertaking. Inviting children to the ceremony can be a way to help parents minimize babysitting costs.

Breast feeding mothers WILL need to bring their babies to your reception. There is no way around it, so just deal with it, and make sure there is room for the pram!

We know it can be hard to hear – we hope you can handle it!